In this article will examine signs he thinks you’re ugly and what to do about it.
It is hard to navigate the ups and downs in a relationship, and it is even harder to know what someone is thinking about you. When in a relationship, paying attention to red flags is important.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, but if he thinks you are ugly, it is a huge red flag in the relationship.
It is hard to know if your partner is really into you, but if he thinks you are ugly, it is a sign he doesn’t love you as much as you thought he did.
There are different times of people; however, judging people based on their looks is a bit shallow. If someone likes you, they should love you for who you are inside and out.
It is flattering when your boyfriend tells you you are pretty, and it hurts if your boyfriend thinks you are ugly. It can also erode your self-confidence.
Signs He Thinks You Are Ugly
There are several signs he thinks you are ugly. Some of them include;
1. He Doesn’t Take Pictures With You
One of the biggest signs is if he avoids taking pictures with you when you’re out with friends.
He may claim he doesn’t like pictures, but it’s a red flag if he happily poses with other attractive women.
He will avoid taking pictures with you if he thinks you are ugly. Even if a guy likes taking pictures, he will not want to take pictures with you if he thinks you are ugly.
When you request to take a picture with him, he will make up an excuse or take your picture alone.
2. He Doesn’t Share Your Photos
If a guy is not attracted to you, he may be less likely to share photos with you on social media, even if he regularly posts pictures.
He will always avoid sharing photos you take with him on his social media accounts. If he happens to share a photo you feature in, he will hide your face with an emoji.
If a guy thinks you are ugly and you tag him in your photos, he will remove the tags because he isn’t proud of you and doesn’t want people to see you together.
3. He Doesn’t Want To Be Seen With You In Public
If you are in a relationship with a guy who thinks you are ugly, he will not want to be seen with you in public. All your dates will be in his house or your house.
If he happens to invite you out, he will ensure it is in a place where no one knows him or you are isolated.
Moreover, a guy who thinks you are ugly will only want to see you when it is dark because many people won’t see you together.
A guy who thinks you are pretty is proud to be seen with you and will want to show you off. He will invite you everywhere so people can see what a beautiful partner he has.
So, if your boyfriend doesn’t want to be seen in public with you, he thinks you are ugly.
4. He Avoids Eye Contact With You
A guy who thinks you are ugly will avoid eye contact with you because your overall appearance makes him uncomfortable.
Pay attention if he makes no eye contact during conversation or seems bored and uninterested when you talk.
Good communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. If you feel he’s not engaged, it could signal he’s not attracted.
Avoiding eye contact also means he does not want to connect with you because he thinks you are less attractive.
5. He Tells You How To Dress
Your dress code is your personal choice and is a form of self-expression. You should wear what you feel most comfortable in and what portrays who you are.
However, if he thinks you are ugly, he will try to tell you what to wear, the hairstyle, and how much makeup to wear.
It is important to wear what makes you feel most like you, but if he thinks you are not attractive, he will try to dictate what you wear and may even get upset when you don’t do what he says.
Moreover, a guy who thinks you are ugly might get upset when you wear revealing clothes because he thinks you are not attractive enough to be in those clothes. After all, they are for “pretty girls.”
For instance, if a guy insists you wear makeup when you go out with him, he thinks you are not good-looking and thinks the makeup will make you look how he wants.
For example, I don’t wear makeup, and I have never worn it all my life, so if a guy tells me that I should wear makeup.
I know he doesn’t appreciate my natural looks, and I drop him like hot coal. I have no business being with someone who thinks I am not attractive.
6. He Doesn’t Compliment You
When someone likes you, they will always compliment your looks; they want you to know how good you look and appreciate you.
However, he will never compliment you when he thinks you are ugly.
Notice if he doesn’t compliment your appearance, even when you make an extra effort with hair, makeup, and cute outfits.
We all need affirmation sometimes. If he acts oblivious, he may not find you physically appealing.
While excessive compliments aren’t needed, it’s thoughtful when a partner acknowledges the effort made to look and feel your best.
According to Lisa Adams, a therapist, a partner, or a friend who seldom compliments your looks or appreciates your physical attributes may harbor negative perceptions about your appearance.
Genuine compliments are important in nurturing healthy relationships.
7. He Compares You To Other Women
If a guy thinks you are ugly, he will compare your looks to other women’s looks.
While it is okay to find other people attractive, if your boyfriend always comments on how well other women look, he thinks you are unattractive.
You should always consider how often your boyfriend talks about other women’s looks. If he compares you to them, it is a huge red flag he thinks you are ugly.
For instance, if your boyfriend sees a woman and says she looks good and asks why you can’t dress like her or tells you to dress like her, he thinks you are ugly and is comparing you with her.
Psychologist Dr. Michael Thompson says, “If your partner or friend frequently compares your appearance unfavorably to others, it could indicate that they think you are unattractive. This behavior is emotionally damaging and should not be ignored.”
8. He Doesn’t Introduce You To His Friends
When a guy loves you, he wants to show you off to his friends. He will invite you to all social events to meet his family and friends.
However, he will not introduce you to his friends or family if he thinks you are ugly.
He will avoid going anywhere with you, so you can’t meet with people from his circle because he thinks you are not attractive, and he may worry about what his friends will say about you.
9. He Body Shames You
Body shaming is wrong and should be condemned with the strongest words possible.
Body shaming is one of the huge red flags in a relationship, so if a guy thinks you are ugly, he will always body shame you.
If you are a bit heavier, he will tell you how fat you are and that you should lose weight.
Dr. Emily Williams cautions, “If someone engages in body shaming by making negative comments about your weight, size or features, it is a clear indication that they think you unattractive. This behavior is hurtful and unacceptable.”
If your boyfriend always comments negatively about your body, weight, and size, it is a sign he thinks you are ugly and is not attracted to you.
If you wonder if someone is body shaming you, they will say something like you are too fat; you should consider losing weight.
Or tell you that you should not wear certain clothes because you are too fat to be in those clothes.
10. He Teases You
Couples tease and make fun of each other; it is all part of dating and connecting.
However, if your boyfriend teases you about your looks more than he compliments you, he thinks you are ugly.
For instance, if your boyfriend always teases you about your looks all the time, it could mean he finds something wrong with you.
For example, if he always comments about your nose or ears and teases you about them all the time, he thinks you are ugly.
11. He Doesn’t Defend You When People Tease You
If he thinks you are ugly, he will not defend you when people tease you about your looks.
Moreover, a guy who thinks you are unattractive might even laugh when other people are easing instead of defending you and asking them to stop bullying and teasing you.
Additionally, if a guy thinks you are ugly, he will join his friends in teasing you.
12. He Ignores You In Public
It is hurtful when someone you like ignores you. It is more hurtful if they ignore you in public because they think you are ugly.
If your partner thinks you are ugly, he will ignore you when you meet in public.
He may pretend he doesn’t see you or pass by you like he doesn’t know you because he doesn’t want people to know he is associated with you.
Moreover, if your partner thinks you are ugly, he will avoid holding hands with you in public and will not want to show you affection in public, even if he is affectionate.
For instance, if he thinks you are ugly, he will not hold hands with you and will even avoid hugging you in public because he doesn’t want people to know he is with you.
13. No Physical Affection
If your partner thinks you are ugly, he will not be physically intimate with you. He will make excuses when you want to be physically intimate with him.
It is possible to love someone and not be sexually attracted to them. So, if your boyfriend is no longer physically affectionate with you, he could think you are ugly.
For instance, if you recently got a child, you may have gained some weight, and your partner may think you are ugly.
He may no longer want to be intimate with you and will not want to touch you as he did before.
14. He Flirts With Other Women
If your boyfriend thinks you are ugly, he may openly flirt with other women in front of you.
It is hurting and disrespectful when your boyfriend flirts with other women, and worse if he does it in front of you.
If your boyfriend compliments and flirts with other women in front of you, he thinks you are ugly. He is diverting his attention to other people.
Remember that flirting with others in your presence could indicate disinterest but not necessarily a judgment on attractiveness.
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What To Do If He Thinks You Are Ugly
It hurts when you know your significant other thinks you are ugly. However, there are several things you can do if he thinks you are ugly. Some of them include the following;
1. Have an Open Conversation
If your partner does things to show you he thinks you are ugly, you should talk to him and tell him how his actions make you feel.
Approach him politely and make him know he is hurting you and that you would want him to change.
Communicate your feelings using “I” statements rather than accusations. Ask questions and listen with empathy.
Honest communication is key to understanding each other’s thoughts, emotions and experiences.
2. Focus On Yourself
If he thinks you are ugly, you should focus on yourself and do what makes you happy. Some things are natural, and you can do nothing about them without plastic surgery.
So, if he thinks you are ugly, focus on yourself. Love yourself and appreciate your God-given body.
Do the things that make you happy and build your self-esteem. Do not let a man tell you how you should look.
When you focus on yourself and build your confidence, you will find a man who will love you unconditionally for who you are without telling you you should look a certain way.
3. Don’t Accept Hurtful Behavior
If your partner is being outright hurtful, disrespectful, or unkind regarding your appearance, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.
Toxic behavior and criticism can severely damage your self-worth and self-image over time.
Consider seeking couples counseling to facilitate difficult conversations in a mediated environment.
But if patterns of negativity persist despite efforts to communicate openly, leaving this person may be healthiest for your mental well-being.
You deserve to feel valued, respected, and cared for in a relationship. Don’t compromise your self-esteem for someone who brings you down.
4. Leave Him
You don’t need the negativity from someone who thinks you are ugly and You deserve better.
So, If you feel continually disrespected or unappreciated, you may want to reflect on whether this relationship is right for you.
It is better to be alone than be with someone who makes you feel ugly and unloved.
You deserve someone who loves you unconditionally and will get that special someone.
Remember, your worth isn’t defined by appearance. You deserve to feel valued for who you are. You will get someone who appreciates your looks and loves you deeply.
We are all beautifully and wonderfully made. However, some people still judge people by their physical appearance.
It is hurtful when you know someone thinks you are ugly. Nonetheless, knowing if someone thinks you are ugly is not easy.
Some signs he thinks you are ugly include; he doesn’t take pictures with you, doesn’t post your photos, doesn’t want to be seen with you in public, and won’t let you meet his friends and family.
Moreover, a guy who thinks you are ugly will not compliment you and may tease you about your body. He may also body shame you and flirt with other women in front of you.
If he thinks you are ugly, he will compare you to other women and laugh when his friends tease you; he will also ignore you in public and deny you physical intimacy.
In case he thinks you are ugly, talk to him and tell him how his actions hurt you and ask him to change. If he doesn’t change, leave him and focus on yourself.
You deserve unconditional love and much better than someone who thinks you are ugly.
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Sarah Williams is an author at CandidHaven.com she is an expert in human psychology having graduated with an M.S. in Psychology.
Sarah has extensive experience in relationships and dating therapy having worked for over 6 years with different groups of people including teens, dating couples, and married people.
She is a lover of life, and self-development and believes everyone deserves to be in a fulfilling relationship. Sarah loves reading self-help books and doing research on human psychology.