In this article, we will look at signs God is showing you someone is not right for you.
In love and relationships, seeking guidance from our faith is a source of strength and wisdom.
It can be hard to know where you stand with your partner and if God is showing you someone is not right for you.
As you grow in your faith, love and dating can feel confusing and may be difficult to navigate.
When dating someone, you may ask if God approves of them or if they are not right for you.
Signs God is Showing You Someone Is Not Right For You
Many red flags show someone is not right for you and you are not meant to be together forever.
Some of the signs God is showing you someone is not right for you include;
1. Your Relationship Goes Against God’s Word
The first clear sign God is showing you someone is not right for you is if your relationship goes against the will of God.
The Bible urges believers to hold marriage in high honor, saying, “Let marriage be held in honor among all” (Hebrews 13:4).
While you may feel a strong emotional bond with someone, if pursuing that relationship would go against God’s principles for marriage and honoring marital vows, it is likely a sign to pause.
Many people get into relationships because they feel connected or fall in love with the person.
However, sometimes you may fall in love with someone already married, and being in a relationship with them goes against God’s word.
Exodus 20:14. Thou shall not commit adultery.
So, if you fall in love with someone who is married, it is a clear sign God is showing you they are not right for you.
Being in a relationship with a married person goes against God’s commandments.
Feelings come and go, but the word of God will remain.
So, if you are dating a married person or cheating on your spouse, you are going against the word of God no matter how much you think you love the person.
2. They Don’t Want A Real Relationship
Another clear sign God is showing you someone is not right for you is if the person doesn’t want a real relationship.
The Bible encourages sincere love, stating, “Love must be sincere” (Romans 12:9).
If you come across someone who only wants to date online and doesn’t want to have a real relationship, God is showing you they are not the right person for you.
It is important to know who you are going out with and get to spend some time with them.
However, if the person you are falling for wants to remain anonymous or behind a screen, it may be time to call it quits as God is showing you they are not right for you.
In this digital era, many people have online dates and get their forever people online.
However, if the person you are talking to online doesn’t want to meet in person, this relationship may not have a future.
Romans 12:9 says, Love must be real. Hate what is evil, and hold on to what is good.
When someone really loves you, they will strive to do the best for you and grow your relationship.
A real relationship involves having partners spend time together, so if your partner doesn’t want to meet you in real life.
God may use their avoidance of real-world connection to show you they are not truly invested.
3. You Don’t Have The Same Level Of Desire For Each Other
When you are in a relationship, you should have the same desire for each other—people in a relationship need to have the same level of intimacy and vulnerability.
If you are in a relationship and you don’t have the same level of desire for each other, the relationship will be one-sided, and this is a sign God is showing they are not the right person for you.
So, if your partner acts like they love you but hate you, it is a sign they are not right for you. When someone is right for you, they don’t blow hot and cold; they are consistent in their feelings for you.
In Ephesians 5:21, Paul says, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” So, if you don’t have the same level of love, it may be a sign they are not right for you.
4. They Don’t Share Your Beliefs
If you are dating someone who doesn’t share your beliefs, God is showing you they are not the right person for you.
When getting into a long-term relationship with someone, love is not always enough. You need someone who shares your values and beliefs.
Someone with whom you can converse about serious issues and come to an understanding.
For instance, if you believe in God, you can’t be in a long-term relationship with a non-believer. You need to be with someone who shares your beliefs and values.
“And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you.” (Quran 2:221)
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
5. They Are Dishonest
When you love someone, you want them to be honest with you. So, if someone you love is dishonest with you, God is showing you they are not right for you.
Relationships are about sharing and being vulnerable with your partner. You need your partner to be honest with you so you can trust them and open up to them.
When someone deceives you and is dishonest with you, it is a sign God is showing you he is not right for you.
Proverbs 12:22 says, “The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy.”
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6. They Are Not Emotionally Supportive
In a relationship, you need your partner to support you emotionally. A partner should be there to hold your hand when you are going through a hard time and offer a shoulder to lean on.
“Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
For instance, if your partner doesn’t support you or mock you when you lose your job, they are not the right person for you.
A good partner will support you through your troubles and walk with you until you have your strength back.
7. They Are Manipulative
When dating, you should be aware of a manipulative partner. If your partner tries to control everything in your life, it is God showing you they are not right for you.
If your partner gaslights you and is possessive, this is not love. When someone loves you, they don’t try to control or change you; they love you for who you are.
So, if your partner tries to control who you talk to, hang out with, or where you go, they are manipulative and possessive.
In a healthy relationship, your partner should give you space to be yourself.
8. They Are Disrespectful
If the person you are with is disrespectful, God is showing you they are not the right person for you.
Respect is important in all areas of our lives, so if the person you love doesn’t respect you or the people around you, it is time to call it quits.
Disrespect in a relationship is unacceptable; you need someone who respects you as a person and respects your opinions.
Moreover, you need to be with someone who respects other people, even those they may think are inferior.
For instance, if you are in a restaurant and your partner disrespects the waitress, God is showing you they are not right for you.
They will eventually disrespect you the same ways they disrespect other people.
“And those who annoy believing men and believing women undeservedly, they bear the guilt of slander and manifest sin.” (Quran 33:58)
9. They Are Abusive and Violent
Another clear sign from God that someone is not right is if they are abusive or violent towards you.
The Bible teaches, “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” (Colossians 3:19).
In a relationship, you need to be with someone who loves you and is empathic. Your partner should not be emotionally, physically, or financially abusive.
If your partner hits you or attempts to hit you, they are not the right person for you, and you should break up with them.
“Believers! It is not lawful for you to become heirs to women against their will. It is not lawful that you should put constraint upon them that you may take away anything of what you have given them; (you may not put constraint upon them) unless they are guilty of brazenly immoral conduct. (Quran 4:19)
10. They Have Destructive Habits
If your partner has destructive habits, it may be God showing you they are not right for you. In a relationship, you need someone you can build a future with.
However, if your partner has destructive behaviors like addictions, you may not be able to have a future with them.
As 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
So, if your partner has destructive habits, they may rub off on you and corrupt your good character.
For instance, if they are addicts, they may introduce you to their habits.
11. Their Friends Aren’t Committed To God
We may not be surrounded by believers all the time; however, when your partner’s closest friends don’t believe in God, this might be a sign God is showing you they are not right for you.
If all your partner’s friends are non-believers, it may tell you more about them. Your partner may be a believer but may be influenced by the people they associate with.
1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
So, your partner may be a good person, but the company they keep may corrupt their good morals.
Therefore, if your partner has evil friends, God is showing you they are not right for you.
12. Your Family Disapproves Of Them
Your family knows you best, and they are important in the eyes of God. So, if your family disapproves of the person you are dating, it is a sign God is showing you they are not right for you.
If your family is welcoming but disapproves of your partner, you should think twice about having them in your life.
So, if you are unsure about a partner, let them meet your family, and they will give you an honest opinion about them.
However, if your family has a habit of rejecting all your partners, they may not be the best judges, and you should look for other signs.
13. The Don’t Help You
When you get into a relationship, you know you always have someone in your corner; you have a helper and a supporter.
However, if you are in a relationship with someone who doesn’t help you, God may be showing you they are not the right person for you.
Galatians 6:2 says, By helping each other with your troubles, you truly obey the law of Christ.
“Indeed, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and forbids immorality and bad conduct and oppression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.” (Quran 16:90)
In a relationship, your partner should be your shoulder to lean on; they are the first person you should go to when you have troubles.
So, if your partner is not helpful, God is showing you they are not the right person for you because when push comes to shove, you will not have someone to lean on.
14. You Have Incompatible Life Goals
In a relationship, you need to be compatible with your partner. Sometimes even if you love someone deeply and are incompatible, the relationship may be doomed.
You need to be in a relationship with someone who shares your ambitions and the same goals. For instance, if you are a hard worker, you need a partner who is a hard worker and one with some ambition.
You don’t necessarily need to share the same ambitions, but you both must have some ambition.
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Amos 3:3.
15. They Don’t Want To Compromise
A relationship is a partnership and requires a lot of give and take. If your partner is unwilling to compromise, it is a sign that God is showing you they are not right for you.
Sometimes you may need to give more in a relationship than you take because relationships are not always 50/50.
So, if your partner is unwilling to put in more effort when you are down, they are not right for you.
In Luke 6:30, the gospel says, “Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back.”
So, if your partner can’t compromise, God is showing you they are not right for you.
Faith is a source of strength and wisdom when getting into relationships. Sometimes you may see signs of God showing you someone is not right for you.
Some signs God is showing you, someone is not right for you include, the relationship is against God’s word, they don’t want a real relationship, they don’t help you, and they are not emotionally supportive.
Moreover, if they are dishonest, don’t have the same level of desire, don’t share your beliefs, their friends aren’t committed to God, and your family disapproves of them, it signs God is showing you they are not right for you.
Additionally, if they are manipulative, disrespectful, abusive, and violent, have destructive habits, or have incompatible goals, God is showing you they are not right for you.
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Sarah Williams is an author at CandidHaven.com she is an expert in human psychology having graduated with an M.S. in Psychology.
Sarah has extensive experience in relationships and dating therapy having worked for over 6 years with different groups of people including teens, dating couples, and married people.
She is a lover of life, and self-development and believes everyone deserves to be in a fulfilling relationship. Sarah loves reading self-help books and doing research on human psychology.