Dating can get complicated sometimes. You may think things are going well, but your partner may think the opposite. Nothing is more frustrating than dating someone you are not on the same page with.
It is worse if you are dating someone who is tired of you. Sometimes your girlfriend may be tired of you but will not have the guts to tell you they are tired of you.
You will keep making efforts in the relationship, but your efforts are not recognized or reciprocated. You are just trying to water a dead plant.
If you feel that something has changed in the relationship or have tangible evidence that your girlfriend is tired of you, you should do something about it.
All relationships have their ups and downs; it could be you are going through a rough patch in your relationship. However, if you think your girlfriend is tired of you, you should do something about it.
This article will give you examples of signs to look out for if you think your girlfriend is tired of you.
Signs she is tired of you
If you think your girlfriend is tired of you and may need more convincing before you take the next step, here are signs that show your girlfriend is tired of you.
1. She Doesn’t Want To Be Intimate With You
Intimacy is important in a relationship and means different things to different people. So, if your girlfriend doesn’t want to be intimate with you, she is tired of you.
When a woman is into you, she will always want to be with you and around you. She will want you to have physical contact with her, no matter how small.
So, if your girlfriend doesn’t want to be intimate with you, she has checked out of the relationship and does not know how to tell you she is tired of you.
For instance, if your girlfriend likes to hold your hand, hug and kiss you, or you would have sex any chance you get, but now she wants none of these things, she is tired of you. It could also mean she is getting physical intimacy from someone else.
2. She No Longer Replies To Your Texts Or Calls
If your girlfriend is big on texting and texting is your primary mode of communication, she will always want to keep in touch with you.
She will reply to your texts as soon as she gets them, and you will spend most of your time apart chatting.
However, if your girlfriend is tired of you, she will not want to talk to you. She will ignore your texts, and most of your calls will go unanswered.
When you ask what is wrong, she will most likely say it’s nothing; she didn’t hear the phone or some other lousy excuse.
If your girlfriend starts missing your calls and texts or taking long to reply to your messages, you should follow up and do more investigations. She may be tired of you or texting some other guys for all you know.
3. She Isn’t Bothered Anymore
If your girlfriend is tired of you, she may not be bothered by anything you do. There are two types of people in relationships, those who are bothered by every small detail and those who would care less.
So, if your girlfriend is tired of you and is always bothered by minute things, she will not be bothered by whatever you do.
She will not care whether you came home last night or not. She will go on with her business like everything is fine even though the relationship is falling apart.
Some people are happy when their partners are not bothering them, but this is the time you should be worried. It is the calm before the storm. If your partner gives you the silent treatment, be very worried.
According to a study by Paul Schrodt, a Texas Christian University professor, the silent treatment can lead to relationship dissatisfaction and is a major factor in divorce. “The more polarized the partners become, the more difficult it is for them to stop engaging in the behaviors,” says Schrodt.
For instance, I am the girl who will talk your ears off if you do something wrong, so if you see me not being bothered about something you did, I am done. I may be in the relationship physically, but mentally, I checked out a long time ago.
When I am talking and screaming at you, there is a chance to save the relationship; however, when I shut down and don’t bother with what you do, be very afraid.
4. You Suspect She Is Cheating
When you are in a healthy and happy relationship, the thought of your partner cheating will not cross your mind.
So, if you suspect that your girlfriend is cheating, chances are that she is cheating, and you may want to investigate further to ascertain if your suspicions are true.
You may confirm your suspicions. But on the other hand, you may find that she is not cheating. But if she is acting like the relationship is over, she is ready to move on and is waiting for the right time to tell you or ghost you.
5. Everything You Do Bothers Her
This is the opposite of what we discussed earlier. If every small thing you do bothers her, it could mean she is tired of you.
When your girlfriend is tired of you, everything you do will bother her. You may be seated watching a movie or playing on your phone, and it will tick her off. There is simply nothing good you can do in her eyes.
She will also try to blame you for everything; it doesn’t matter if you did it or not or if it is in your control in the first place. Someone who is tired of you will only see mistakes in whatever you do.
For instance, you may offer to do the dishes, and she will say you did them wrong; you bring her flowers, and alas, you brought the wrong type.
She will even be bothered by your breathing. God forbid you snore. You will be walking on eggshells around her as everything will lead to an argument or silent treatment.
6. You Are Not A Priority
When in a relationship, you want to be your girlfriend’s priority and her yours. However, if you notice that you are no longer her priority, she may be tired of you.
Being in a relationship means your partner puts you and the relationship first. However, it can be complicated as human emotions are complicated, but if your girlfriend always makes you a priority and suddenly everything else comes before you, it could be that she is tired of you.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying she shouldn’t go out with her friends or want to spend a weekend with her parents over going to a work dinner with you. But if she puts her salon appointments over you, you should worry.
I know the world doesn’t revolve around you, and it shouldn’t, but if your partner has had a significant shift in her priorities, you should ask yourself some questions.
7. She Criticizes You
If your girlfriend is tired of you, she will criticize everything you do. She will be more focused on the negative in the relationship and on you.
If everything you do seems to annoy her, she is tired of you and doesn’t know how to tell you she is over you.
When you love someone, you overlook their flaws and focus on their good side, but if you are tired of them, all their flaws come to light with a magnifying glass.
8. She Doesn’t Take Pictures With You
In this technological age, everyone is taking photos and videos of everything, especially the things they hold close to their hearts.
If your girlfriend likes taking photos and posting them on social media, they will want to take pictures of you and show you off to the world.
However, if your girlfriend is no longer interested in taking photos with you, it may be a sign she is tired of you and does not want to be seen with you.
If you request to take a photo with her, she will give an excuse not to take the photo or make movements to make the photo blurry and unusable.
Moreover, if your girlfriend is tired of you, she will not want to be seen with you and will ensure she does not take pictures with you.
9. She Doesn’t Want To Be Seen With You
One of the major signs that your girlfriend is tired of you is when she doesn’t want to be seen with you.
In a relationship, you want to show off your partner to everyone. So, if your girlfriend doesn’t want to be seen with you, it could mean she is tired of you.
She will make excuses not to go places with you and avoid pictures with you. Moreover, she will not want to show you off on social media.
When most people are in relationships, they will show off their partners on social media and engage them in their posts.
So, if your girlfriend is a social media user and is not posting your photos or tagging you, it could mean she is tired of you.
On the other hand, your girlfriend may not want to be seen with you in social events and will avoid going with you or refuse to show up altogether so people cannot see you together.
10. She Flirts With Other People
It is bad enough that your girlfriend is tired of you. But if she flirts with other people in front of you, it is downright disrespectful. Nothing is worse than introducing your girlfriend to your buddies, and she starts flirting with them.
It hurts seeing your girlfriend flirting with other people and, more so, your friends. You should be observant of how she behaves when she is around other guys and how she is with you. If she is flirting with other guys, it may be time to leave.
11. She Is Bored When With You
If your girlfriend is always bored around you but comes alive around other people, it could mean she is tired of you.
I know you do not have to have a fully packed schedule all the time you are together, but if your girlfriend is always bored when you hang out, it could be she is tired of you, and being with you bores her.
When you are tired of someone, no matter how entertaining they are, you will be bored and can’t wait to get away from them. If this is the case with your girlfriend, you should look deeper into your relationship.
What To Do If Your Girlfriend Is Tired Of You
If your girlfriend is tired of you, you will want to do everything within your power to get the relationship back on track. Some of the things you can do include;
- Talk to her– if your girlfriend is showing signs she is tired of you, talk to her. Tell her what you have seen and ask why she is tired of you if indeed she is and ask what you can do to make the situation better for both of you.
- Plan a getaway– if your girlfriend is tired of you, you can plan a surprise getaway for the two of you away from family, school, or work. It will allow you to reconnect as individuals and hopefully bring you back together. In addition, a getaway will help your girlfriend remember what she saw in you the first time away from the distractions of life.
- See a therapist– if you are both willing to work on the relationship, you can see a therapist to help you with the issues in your relationship that lead to your girlfriend being tired of you in the first place.
- Leave– if your girlfriend is tired of you because she is cheating or does not love you anymore, it would be best for you to walk away with your dignity intact. It is hard to walk away from someone you love, but holding on to someone who doesn’t love you hurts much more. You deserve better.
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Your girlfriend may be tired of you for many reasons, and you may not know she is tired if she doesn’t tell you. However, there are signs you can look out for to know if your girlfriend is tired of you.
Some of these signs include; if she no longer wants to be intimate with you, she doesn’t reply to your texts or calls, everything you do bothers her, or she flirts with other guys.
Moreover, your girlfriend could be tired of you if she stops taking photos with you if you suspect she is cheating or criticizes you.
If your girlfriend is tired of you, you can talk with her about what you can do to improve the relationship.
Additionally, you can see a therapist to help you solve the issues that lead to her being tired. If all else fails, you should leave the relationship and look for someone who wants to be with you. You deserve someone who loves you.
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Sarah Williams is an author at CandidHaven.com she is an expert in human psychology having graduated with an M.S. in Psychology.
Sarah has extensive experience in relationships and dating therapy having worked for over 6 years with different groups of people including teens, dating couples, and married people.
She is a lover of life, and self-development and believes everyone deserves to be in a fulfilling relationship. Sarah loves reading self-help books and doing research on human psychology.