In this article, we will talk about the signs that show she doesn’t see a future with you.
You have finally found the woman of your dreams. You are elated and can’t wait to spend the rest of your life with her.
But she doesn’t see you as someone she can spend forever with. This is a common scenario. Women are complicated, to say the least.
It is demoralizing if you are in a relationship with someone and suspect she doesn’t see a future with you. You will want to confirm your fears.
Signs She Doesn’t See A Future With You
If you suspect your girlfriend doesn’t see a future with you, you should look for the following signs.
1. She Doesn’t Open Up To You
If a woman does not open up to you, she doesn’t see a future in you. Women will talk your ears off if they have anything on their minds.
They are more vocal about their feelings than men are, so if your girlfriend is not sharing her feelings with you, it is because she doesn’t see a future with you.
For instance, I am a talker; I will talk about anything and everything that is bothering me to my significant other.
However, I will not tell you anything if I don’t see a future with you. The same applies to my friendships; if I do not see someone as a long-term friend, I will be stingy with the details I give.
If she doesn’t see a future with you, she will not tell you about anything in her life. She will keep all your conversations light.
In this age of texting, she will use emojis to hide her true feelings and to keep the conversations light when you try to dig deeper to know her feelings.
According to Steven McCornack, in his book Reflect & Relate An Introduction to Interpersonal Communication, a relationship goes through many phases.
In the coming together phase, there is an intensifying phase where partners open up to each other. However, if your partner doesn’t see a future with you, she will have a hard time opening up to you.
2. She Doesn’t Want To Spend Time With You
In a relationship, you want to spend as much time as possible with your partner. You do not have to do anything per se; you can hang out or even sleep.
However, if your partner doesn’t see a future with you, they will not want to spend time with you.
So, if you spend less time than you should with your girlfriend and she does not complain about it, there is a problem.
If when she is with you, she seems like she would rather be somewhere else, it means she doesn’t want to spend time with you.
She would rather spend her time with her friends or alone than be with you because she doesn’t see a future with you.
3. She Is No Longer Intimate With You
When a woman mentally checks out of a relationship, intimacy is the first thing to go. If she doesn’t want to be intimate with you or there is a drastic change in your intimacy, it means she doesn’t see a future with you and has checked out of the relationship.
However, you should not evaluate intimacy in the form of sex alone. According to research, many factors can affect the sex drive of women, including hormonal imbalances. Therefore, if you rate intimacy by sex alone, you may be wrong.
Moreover, sex is mechanical, and genuine intimacy goes beyond sex. So she may have sex with you, but all the other aspects of the relationship are off. If a woman is not into you physically, she doesn’t see a future with you.
4. She Doesn’t Talk About The Future
If your partner doesn’t see a future with you, she will never talk about the future. On the other hand, women in happy and healthy relationships will paint you a clear picture of the future with their partner.
Truth be told, most women have the future planned to the last detail. They know when they want their wedding, the wedding dress’s colour, and how many kids they want. Sometimes it’s the little things like planning a vacation over Christmas or summer.
So, if your partner doesn’t talk about the future, maybe weeks or months ahead, she does not see a future with you.
A woman who sees a future with you will share what they think the future should look like with you.
They will tell you when they would like to move in and where they would like to live, even hypothetically, so if she doesn’t talk about anything in the future with you, she doesn’t see you in her future.
5. It Seems You Annoy Her
If everything you do annoys your partner, it could be that she doesn’t see a future with you and sees you as a bother.
Nothing is more hurting than trying to be there for someone and be their everything, but they see you as a nuisance in their life.
The cute things you did to make her laugh are making her annoyed, she no longer laughs at your silly jokes, and they all seem to make her agitated. This could be a sign she has checked out of the relationship.
If your inside jokes are no longer funny and she always seems annoyed, she doesn’t see a future with you and has mentally checked out of the relationship.
6. She Doesn’t Want To Spend Time With Your Family
If your partner doesn’t see a future with you, she will avoid spending time with your family. For example, if you have introduced her to your family and she doesn’t want to visit them, she doesn’t see a future with you.
When you introduce your partner to your family, they will create a bond with the family members, maybe not all, but there will be a connection with some.
For instance, you may introduce her to your family, and she clicks with your sister. In the beginning, she will want to hang out with her and learn more about you. Sisters have the best gossip about their brothers. I should know.
Therefore, if she doesn’t want to spend time with your family anymore, she is slowly pulling out of the relationship so she will not hurt your family when she finally leaves.
As Ingrid Andress says in More Hearts Than Mine, when you break up with me, you break more hearts than mine.
7. She Doesn’t Want To Be Seen With You
If she doesn’t see a future with you, she will not want to be seen with you and will always make excuses when you invite her somewhere.
In a relationship, you want to spend time with your partner and invite her to events to show her off to your friends and family.
However, if your partner doesn’t see a future with you, they will not be willing to go out with you and will make excuses not to be seen with you.
They will avoid any situation where they meet their friends and family with you or even yours because you are just a placeholder to them.
She will also avoid taking photos with you and posting them on their social media because they do not want people to know they are with you.
After all, if she wants to see other guys, they may not approach her if they see her with you or see you in her social media posts.
8. She Is Not Supportive Of You
If you are dating someone, you expect them to support you. Your partner should be your number supporter and cheerleader, whether in your career or other ambitions. So, if she doesn’t support your career and ambitions, she doesn’t see a future in you.
Women are the best support system you can have; they will cheer you on in all your ambitions, and if you are in school or work, they will be there for you.
Your partner should want you to succeed in your career path; it means stability for your family in the future.
So, if she is not supportive and brings you down every chance she gets, she doesn’t see a future with you. She doesn’t see a future with you if you share your ambitions with her, and she demoralizes you.
9. She Doesn’t Want To Introduce You To Her Family And Friends
One of the major signs that a partner doesn’t see a future with you is if they do not want you to meet their family and friends.
If a woman doesn’t see you as a future partner, they will not introduce you to their family and friends. Any time you ask to meet them, you will get excuses for not seeing them.
Meeting family and friends is a major step in cementing the relationship, and she does not want to take the relationship to this level.
If she doesn’t see a future with you, she will not want you to be attached to her family and friends because it will complicate the breakup when she decides to leave.
10. You Suspect She Is Cheating
If you are in a happy and healthy relationship, you will never suspect your partner of cheating. However, if you start suspecting she is cheating, maybe she is. Therefore, you should investigate and know for sure if she is cheating or why you have this feeling.
If your partner is talking to other guys behind your back, she doesn’t see a future with you and is looking for potential suitors.
Sometimes it may be difficult to know if she is cheating. However, you can look out for some signs like;
- Hiding her phone from you.
- Talking on the phone at weird hours of the night.
- She is distracted.
- She changed her dress code.
- She is no longer intimate.
- She doesn’t want you to visit her house.
- She doesn’t want to be seen with you.
11. She doesn’t commit to long-term plans
If you are in a relationship, you will want to make plans with your partner, whether long-term or short-term. However, if your partner doesn’t see a future with you, they will avoid committing to any long-term plans.
For instance, you may want to move in with them and start saving for a down payment to buy a house; your partner will not want to commit to this plan because she doesn’t think you will be together long enough to buy the house.
If you suspect your partner doesn’t see a future with you, you should have an honest conversation with her. Tell her how you feel and the signs you have seen.
If you have evidence she doesn’t see a future with her, show her the evidence and start talking about the way forward.
You may decide to work on the relationship if you have read the signs wrong and she is willing to put more effort into the relationship.
Additionally, you may want to see couples therapy to work on your relationship and get better tools to improve and build a stronger and happier relationship where one party doesn’t feel left out.
If she doesn’t see a future with you, it is best to end the relationship instead of holding on to a dying horse; sometimes, holding on hurts more than letting go. It is better to hurt now and heal than to invest your time and effort in watering a dead plant.
In a relationship with someone, you want them to be your forever person. However, this is not always the case.
Sometimes you may be with someone who doesn’t see a future with you. she may be your forever, but you are not hers.
There will be signs if she doesn’t see a future with you. Some of the signs include; she will not want to be seen with you and will not be intimate with you.
Moreover, someone who doesn’t see a future with you will not open up to you, talk about the future, or want to spend time with you.
She will also not spend time with your family or support you. If you suspect or have evidence she doesn’t want to spend time with you, you should have an honest conversation with her and tell her how you feel.
If she is willing to work on the relationship, you can visit a therapist to help you work on strengthening your relationship.
However, you should leave the relationship if she doesn’t see a future with you. You deserve someone who loves you and will stick with you until the end, not someone who uses you as a placeholder. You deserve better.
Sarah Williams is an author at CandidHaven.com she is an expert in human psychology having graduated with an M.S. in Psychology.
Sarah has extensive experience in relationships and dating therapy having worked for over 6 years with different groups of people including teens, dating couples, and married people.
She is a lover of life, and self-development and believes everyone deserves to be in a fulfilling relationship. Sarah loves reading self-help books and doing research on human psychology.