In this article, we will look at several signs a guy is infatuated with you.
Men don’t show their feelings towards you often; you may never know if a man has feelings for you. If you don’t know what signs to look for, you may never know if a man is infatuated or in love with you.
The debate between love and infatuation has been going on for a long time since they have the same signs.
However, when someone is infatuated with you, they will have strong feelings for you for a while then the feelings will die out. Infatuation is a grass fire; it burns fast and dies fast.
The difference between love and infatuation is big, and you should not overlook it. Love is patience and takes its time to blossom; love catches most people as a surprise.
While infatuation is impatient, it comes fast, you get very strong feelings for someone at the beginning of the relationship, and all you want is them.
With infatuation, your love interest is perfect in your eyes. However, these strong feelings are only for a while.
After a few months, you have no feelings for the person. So, how do you differentiate between a guy who is infatuated with you and one who loves you?
Signs A Guy Is Infatuated with You
If you want to know if a guy loves you or is only infatuated with you, here are a few signs a guy is infatuated with you.
1. He Puts You On a Pedestal
If a guy is infatuated with you, he will put you on a pedestal. There is nothing wrong you can do in the eyes of this guy.
He will worship the ground you walk on because you are the best thing that happened to them. You will be the center of his world; he will think he is lucky to be with you.
This is the initial part; however, when the infatuation ends, and the guy sees your flaws, he will not stay.
He will lose interest in you as fast as he got interested in you and will never look at you the same way again.
2. He Acts Desperate
One of the unmistakable signs a guy is infatuated with you is desperation. When a guy is infatuated with you, he wants things to move as fast as possible.
You will feel the guy is trying to move things too fast for comfort.
For instance, a guy infatuated with you will want to move in with you or meet your family so fast.
They want to show everyone that he loves you and may even ask you to marry him within a short time.
Psychologist Nandita Rambhia says, “Thinking that the person is almost perfect is one of the clear signs of infatuation.
One only sees the positives in them and only focuses on what one likes about them. You will dismiss their negative points because of this intense admiration.
Due to such idealistic notions, you tend to become needy almost to a point where you would be willing to do anything for them.”
So, if a guy is infatuated with you, he will be desperate to be with you and do anything to have you.
Moreover, if the guy is insecure, he wants to hold onto you because he feels the relationship will crumble to his feet soon.
3. He Doesn’t Act Like Himself
One sign that a guy is infatuated with you is if he doesn’t act like himself around you. When a guy is infatuated with you, he will always want to impress you and do the things he thinks will impress you.
He will no longer be himself when he is around you. You may know this from others because you may hear his friends say he has changed since he met you.
For instance, a guy infatuated with you may take up your hobbies to impress you. If you are a dancer, he may start learning to dance. He may even change his dress code or how he talks to try and impress you.
Doing things you don’t like only to impress someone is exhausting. It may work for a while, but eventually, you will get tired of pretending to be someone you are not, and the house of cards will come crumbling down.
When a guy is infatuated with you, he just wants you to like him; he doesn’t care if you don’t like him for him.
4. You Are All He Talks About
If a guy is infatuated with you, you will be all he talks about. His friends and family have been patient, but they can’t take any more of him talking about you.
No matter the topic, they will find a way to bring up your name in the conversation.
It was nice at the beginning, and his friends were happy he is in a relationship, but now it is too much. He is obsessed with you.
5. He Prioritizes Your Company
I know it is great when someone wants to spend time with you and enjoys your company, but sometimes it can be too much. We all want some alone time once in a while.
So, if a guy constantly seeks your company and goes out of his way to spend time with you, he may be infatuated with you.
For instance, if he cancels other important engagements to spend time with you or actively engages in activities that interest you, he is infatuated with you.
A guy infatuated with you will want to spend every waking hour with you, and you may start to feel suffocated by this presence. It is quite flattering at first, but it gets old fast.
6. He Is Extremely Jealous
A guy is infatuated with you if he is extremely jealous. Of course, a little jealousy is important in a relationship, but if a guy is extremely jealous when he sees you talking to other guys, it could mean he is infatuated.
When a guy genuinely loves you, he will give you space to make friends and be with your friends.
However, a man infatuated with you will want you all to himself and be extremely jealous if you associate with other people.
A guy fascinated with you is possessive and may be controlling. He may even start stalking you to know where you are and who you are talking to at all times.
7. He Flirts Too Much
Having a guy you are interested in flirting with and complimenting you is flattering.
However, if a guy can’t have an actual conversation with you, and all your conversations are centered on flirting; he is infatuated with you.
If all you talk about with him is flirtatious and continuously complimenting each other, it could be you have nothing in common to talk about.
Flirting is okay, but you should also be able to talk about other things. For example, you could talk about your days or other “boring” things.
So, if a guy loses interest when you talk about other things that are not flirtatious, he is only infatuated with you and doesn’t love you. Someone who loves you will want to learn everything about you.
8. He Ignores His Friends
When a guy is infatuated with you, he only wants to concentrate on you, and everyone fades to the background. So he will take all his time with you and ignore his friends.
Whenever his friends want to hang out, he will not have time for them because he wants to hang out with his crush.
Even if you hang out with his friends, he will not have time for them. This friend could be on fire, and he could not notice if you are there.
This is a dangerous game because he may end up pushing his friends away, and when the infatuation ends, he will have no one to turn to.
9. No One Else Sees It
One significant sign of infatuation is no one else can see why you are together. To him, you are a match made in heaven, but his friends and family can’t see what he sees in you.
You have nothing in common with him, but he is infatuated with you, and anyone who points out your differences ends up on the enemies list.
10. He Changes His Core Beliefs
If a guy is infatuated with you, he will change his beliefs to match yours. What he believes and may have fought for a long time will no longer matter when you get into his life.
For instance, you may be a big steak lover, and he is a vegan. When you come into his life, he will abandon his beliefs and start eating steak just because that is what you love.
If it were genuine love, he would not feel the need to change who he is to please you.
11. He Is Insecure
When a guy is infatuated with you, he is insecure you will leave him. He will always want to know who you are talking to because he thinks you will cheat on him.
Deep down, he knows you have nothing in common and may feel you deserve better than him, making him very insecure.
His insecurities may make him possessive and controlling as he doesn’t want you away from him, so other guys can’t talk to you.
Moreover, an insecure guy will keep asking you if you love him because he is afraid you will leave him.
11. He May Feel Tired and Alone
Infatuation is all-consuming, a guy infatuated with you will be exhausted because he constantly worries about what you think about him and what you are doing and will often stress about things not working out.
When you are near him, he is happy and will feel alone and crave your attention when you are away from him.
12. He Has Persistent and Intrusive Thoughts
When a guy is infatuated with you, he will always think about you. He will eat, sleep and work with you on his mind.
No matter how much he tries, he will always think about you, and everything around him will remind him about you.
It is like when a song is stuck in your head, and you sing it on repeat for days. So, if you talk to a guy who says he has been thinking about you, he may be infatuated with you.
13. He Is Nervous Around You
If a guy is infatuated with you, he will be nervous around you. The intense feelings he has for you will translate into nerves; he will be anxious when he is around you and may even lose his appetite due to the butterflies dancing in his stomach.
So, if a guy tells you that he has butterflies in his stomach every time he is around, it could be he is infatuated with you and is anxious not to make a mistake because he wants to impress you so you may like him back.
14. He Only Wants to Be Physical with You
When you are in a new relationship, you may take some time before you are physically intimate with your partner.
However, if the guy is infatuated with you, he will want to get physical with you fast, which may be the only thing he wants.
If your boyfriend is only affectionate with you in bed, he may be infatuated with you and only wants to be physical with you.
Of course, physical intimacy is essential in a relationship, but if that’s the only thing your boyfriend wants, then there is a problem.
15. You Feel Like You Don’t Know Them
If a guy is infatuated with you, you will feel like you don’t know them because all your conversations are superficial.
You don’t know what they like doing, and all information you have about them is from social media rather than genuine conversations with them.
Can infatuation turn into love?
Yes, infatuation can turn into love; it is some people’s first stage of love. However, it doesn’t mean that everyone has to experience the adrenaline rush of infatuation before progressing into love.
How long does infatuation last?
Infatuation usually lasts for at least 18 months to 3 years. However, the infatuated person may extend the duration due to long distances or insecurities.
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Infatuation is different from love; when a guy is infatuated with you, he will have strong feelings for you, but the feelings may subside after a while.
There are many signs a guy is infatuated with you, including putting you on a pedestal, acting desperate, and not acting like himself when he is with you.
Moreover, if a guy is infatuated with you, he will prioritize your company, flirt too much with you and ignore his friends.
He will also have persistent thoughts about you and may even be insecure and nervous around you.
Infatuation may sometimes turn to love and will last for at least 18 months to 3 years.
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Sarah Williams is an author at CandidHaven.com she is an expert in human psychology having graduated with an M.S. in Psychology.
Sarah has extensive experience in relationships and dating therapy having worked for over 6 years with different groups of people including teens, dating couples, and married people.
She is a lover of life, and self-development and believes everyone deserves to be in a fulfilling relationship. Sarah loves reading self-help books and doing research on human psychology.